Hey Lou-Dog, what if my crush doesn’t like me back?
by Louie Demetroulakos on Friday, February 7th, 2014
Why hello there!
I want you to know that your question is very common. I see a plethora of kids with the same problem. Unfortunately the answer is about as complex as the depths of an ocean, but I will say that an optimistic attitude will make all the difference here. First off, you have a right to feel upset. It is very natural to feel down after coming to the realization that your crush doesn’t reciprocate your feelings. The warrior in me says to never give up and pursue it till you can no longer walk; however, pursuit will lead to only continued anxiety and desire. So please don’t come to school wearing a superman costume and run up to your crush with a bouquet of flowers. You need to be yourself. If you take the right steps, you will find someone who likes you for who you are. You can never force someone to like you against his or her will; you can, however, go about trying to get to know that person better. In most cases, rejection comes simply because your crush does not know you well enough. You have to be real with yourself, be able to look in the mirror, and reflect on possible mistakes you may have made during the courting process. Do not, however, beat yourself up over it. Sometimes you find someone really special when you are not actively looking for it. Also remember that “you must first learn to fail before you learn to succeed,” as Michael Jordan once said. If you never fail, you will never learn from your mistakes and thus will not be able to succeed in the future. I have recently been studying the idea of living in the present moment. You need to focus on what is happening here and now, not what is in the past. Believe me, it is very upsetting when you really like someone and he or she doesn’t like you back, but all I can say is that you must live with the possibility of failure. Maybe you weren’t bold enough in presenting your feelings towards your crush. Although I don’t know anything for sure, I do know that you will take this experience and learn from it. You can’t change the way people feel about you unless you are willing to change yourself. I am not saying you did anything wrong, some people will just not like you in that way, but you have to be honest with yourself. Hopefully this roadblock leads to only positive self-examination. In the meantime, you have to move on; dwelling in the past will bring bad feng-shui. I hope that you take the Mustang approach and ride on. I really hope that my advice was helpful, and I appreciate your honest question. If you want to talk more about it please come find me. Go forth and live like a champion!!!
Your Oldest Pal,
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