Hey Lou, I have a huge crush on someone, but I am too scared to approach them. What should I do?
by Louie Demetroulakos on Friday, October 11th, 2013
Dear enamored underclassman,
Many great women and men have asked this question throughout history. While the answer really depends on your crush, there are certain underlying principles to keep in mind:
• Always smile and look happy. Having a positive attitude lets your crush know that you are chill and comfortable in your own skin. Be you, Dare to be True, no one likes a pretender, etc. In the words of Ali G the rapper, “Keep it real.” Don’t be afraid to be yourself — you want your crush to like the real you.
• Be confident. Confidence is your friend. Just remember, “What would you do if you weren’t afraid?” When you feel comfortable, approach with confidence. If you want some practice with approaching your crush, go up to that colorful penguin outside the AMC and strike up a basic convo.
• Find a way to break the ice without using a pickaxe. Say something funny or nice, (if you need any ideas, you can come talk to me or consult the internet). Fear can itch like a scorpion bite, but confidence is like the hydrocortisone cream to relieve and overcome the discomfort. You will feel nervous at first, but that is normal and will subside.
• Remember that the path to bliss and serenity is filled with obstacles, but perseverance is the balance beam across the abyss. You won’t achieve your goal unless you go for it. Once you break the ice, don’t heat up too fast and melt it, you have to stay cool. Let the conversation flow, and don’t push anything. Be calm like a kangaroo; if you are afraid, bust out a nice smile.
• Make and maintain solid eye contact. I’m not talking about just peering slightly at your crush’s face; I’m talking about legitimate cornea-to-pupil solid eye contact. Once you make eye contact, hold it like you would a newborn baby.
• If you need something funny to say, just tell your crush that the advice Lou gives is really amazing and is working really well right now (don’t say that, even though it’s hopefully true). Being a great conversationalist is much like surfing a big ripper out in Hawaii, you just have to go with the flow.
• Have fun; please, do not get stressed out.
• Think positive thoughts such as, “this is going to work out… but if it doesn’t, I’m going to pick my head up and go for a long walk on the beach.”
• Don’t worry about what might happen, you just have to go for it. If it doesn’t work out, be kind, be respectful, and do better the next time. Everything is going to work out, after all, the world was supposed to end last year but it didn’t. The world will certainly not end if you mess it up with your crush, think success, and success you will find.
I wish you the best of luck and hope that my advice was helpful. Go forth and conquer.
- Lou Demetroulakos
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