Is the no grinding policy reasonable?
by Ilve Bayturk on Friday, October 5th, 2012
At a school like Milton Academy, where academics come first and students hardly have spare time, students cherish events such as school dances. Dances provide a time for students to remove themselves from the “all work and no play” atmosphere and push thoughts of homework and studying out of their minds. However, students and teachers have different ideas of what “letting loose” really means. What some students might see as harmless fun and a way of expressing themselves by joking around and getting close to one another may be what teachers see as inappropriate or completely unacceptable. Of course, the matter at hand is none other than the infamous issue of grinding.
Students at dances are constantly interrupted by teachers tapping them on the shoulders and asking them to disperse or behave more appropriately. As young adolescents, students don’t see the slightest problem in the way they dance: it is what they have become accustomed to at dances, part of this generation’s cultural norm.
The faculty also wants dances to be “fun,” but in a responsible and respectful manner. The former allows for fun and is no problem whatsoever; the latter part, however, not so much. What exactly do teachers expect from students in the middle of a dance? Do they want the boys to march up to the girls and cordially ask them for a dance? Are the boys supposed to bow and the girls to curtsy? Times have changed since teachers were adolescents, and behaviors have changed, too. Though teachers are always chaperoning school dances, they most likely do not know why certain people choose grinding as their preferred form of dance. While some kids can be slightly more sexually aggressive than others, most kids don’t grind with the specific intention of being crude or impolite. Students in this age are all about having the most freedom possible– without getting in trouble, of course.
Being told what to do is never easy, especially when students are expected to work every second of the day to keep up with academics and abide by school rules. When dances come up, no student wants to think about new rules to obey. Students do not associate rules with fun; thus, the ultimatum of dance appropriately or don’t dance at all is unappealing. In order to keep school dances going, however, students must compromise. If students agree to dance “with more space” between one another, perhaps the administration will not impose a dress code or, worse, have parents serve as chaperones–while students see their teachers almost every day at school, they don’t live with them. The key to maintaining annual, traditional dances such as Swap It, Black Light Dance, and Onyx, is either to continue to be more discrete and hope not to get caught, or – for the sake of continuing dances – compromise. The latter is a much cleaner and safer alternative.
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